The "dream" wife…

I’m trying to figure out the characteristics of a dream wife. I am a woman, so gathering points on the subject is sort of a challenge, but I still have to come up with my own set of list. I ask around hoping to find the right, if not absurd answers from the men themselves.

Some women find men’s version of a ‘dream’ wife very unrealistic. Even from long ago, men were viewed as chauvinistic creatures bent on ruling the women with iron fists. That perception has been swept under the rug and change has become inevitable. A woman’s place is no longer in the kitchen but in the boardroom with the men, discussing future investments. Pretty far from the caveman theory highly upheld back then. But I’m wondering whether that has been more of a curse than a blessing.

Most men do not sit well with the idea of the ‘over-independent’ woman. These to them, are stubborn and filled with pride because of what they have achieved in life. Others might find this very appealing though and not care much, but most do.

I think us women overdo it at times. We are so full of this sense of accomplishment that it no longer serves to make us feel good, but serves as a reason to make us feel better and superior than our men. Especially, if they earn less or have a lower rank than you at work. Avoid this at all costs! Remember that men are usually very competitive and anything that may be viewed as a threat to them is always handled with caution and disdain.

We are not all virgins (which is like a dream come true to all men).This doesn’t give women the right to sleep around (I’m talking about being an outright whore; pardon me).When a man finds out how many men you’ve slept with, it sorta distorts his earlier perception of you. (Take it more as a… suddenly fogged windscreen on a clear sunny afternoon. Yes you can see ahead, but the view is still irritating to look past.) He’ll be like after all, so and so has already ‘hit that’.

Be modest and mysterious at the same time. Make him envy the previous men…not pity them. Again this differs from man to man, some have absolutely no problem with it, so I urge you to confirm that with your spouse.

Enough said then. What is a dream woman? As one expert said; it’s a lady on the streets, a ‘freak’ in the sheets, and one hell of a cook! Of these, what are you lacking? What are you best at? Are you a jack of all but a master of none? Questions to ponder…

Sometimes I don’t think if you lack one of these traits your spouse will love you less, yet, we have to strive to master them all. It’s the harsh reality girls. If you don’t believe me, ask a woman who you genuinely think has succeeded in this. You will find that she agrees.

It’s not hard, merely requires willpower and brains. You should not be a slave to any of these rules but strive to bend them to your advantage. He doesn’t like your cooking? Fine, find another way of enjoying that food. Behind closed doors perhaps? With him as your main dish or you adorned in his favorite salad? Are you slowly getting the picture? Good. You don’t have to be a good cook to make him rush home after work. It’s not the best solution, but it will buy you some time as you try to solve other issues instead of just making them worse.

Women are intelligent creatures but sometimes that is usually destroyed by letting emotions get the best of them. It distorts your judgment and makes you vulnerable and needy. Avoid that.

Men dislike ‘overly emotional’ women .The nagging women who always want to be catered to. It gets tiring and irritating at some point as much as men like to rescue damsels in distress. Show him your soft side but don’t let it go beyond that; using your emotional fragility to trap him and use him doesn’t work at all. Be strong and dependable at times, who said men don’t have their weak moments? At the end of the day, he just wants somebody he can share his dreams and experiences with, not a complaints commission.

Be neat. We tend to let ourselves ‘go’ when we think we have got the man we want. The indoor attires turn to oversize t-shirts and weird-colored stockings on our heads. We forget to pamper ourselves and look beautiful for them.

Men are very superficial creatures, hard as it may be to admit. They see the outer first. True? If you don’t agree, then I don’t think we are living in the same planet. They want to walk down the street feeling like a million bob because they know other men envy your beauty. You don’t have to look like Miss World, but be sensitive on how you look. A little make-up here and there won’t hurt. Sleep in your sexy lingerie. Plus, it will boost your self-confidence to know that your man appreciates that you put effort in your appearance. After all we are just being realistic, aren’t we?